Comments on: It’s Hard To Watch Your Child Be Bullied http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/ Two kids, two cats, two adults... two hugs are a minimum! Fri, 22 Aug 2008 02:56:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: When your child loves it but you do not | Hug Twice http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-103 When your child loves it but you do not | Hug Twice Thu, 13 Dec 2007 11:43:47 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-103 [...] displeasure with the program and the school itself is well documented, both here and directly at the school. There is no way I am paying for him to continue classes [...] [...] displeasure with the program and the school itself is well documented, both here and directly at the school. There is no way I am paying for him to continue classes [...]

]]> By: Hug Twice » Gymnastics Update http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-86 Hug Twice » Gymnastics Update Wed, 05 Dec 2007 11:35:01 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-86 [...] gymnastics class has actually improved. Some of which was initiated by the studio, and some I think was just an [...] [...] gymnastics class has actually improved. Some of which was initiated by the studio, and some I think was just an [...]

]]> By: Hug Twice » I’ve Been visitin’ some carnivals! http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-71 Hug Twice » I’ve Been visitin’ some carnivals! Sun, 02 Dec 2007 03:45:32 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-71 [...] Carnival of Family Life was at On The Horizon and my post It’s Hard to Watch Your Child Be Bullied was included. I also really liked this [...] [...] Carnival of Family Life was at On The Horizon and my post It’s Hard to Watch Your Child Be Bullied was included. I also really liked this [...]

]]> By: Debt, Women, and Family - The Carnivals | I've Paid For This Twice Already... http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-50 Debt, Women, and Family - The Carnivals | I've Paid For This Twice Already... Mon, 26 Nov 2007 16:54:52 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-50 [...] and my post about not trusting my programmable thermostat was included (as well as my post at Hug Twice about how its hard to watch your child be bullied). I enjoyed this post as I thought about shopping for the [...] [...] and my post about not trusting my programmable thermostat was included (as well as my post at Hug Twice about how its hard to watch your child be bullied). I enjoyed this post as I thought about shopping for the [...]

]]> By: Hopeful Spirit http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-48 Hopeful Spirit Mon, 26 Nov 2007 07:29:29 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-48 Thanks for contributing this post to this week’s Carnival of Family Life which I am hosting! It is a valuable addition to the Carnival as many parents will relate to your dilemma. I certainly do! Have you considered hosting the Carnival one week? Blessings to you and yours this Thanksgiving weekend. Thanks for contributing this post to this week’s Carnival of Family Life which I am hosting! It is a valuable addition to the Carnival as many parents will relate to your dilemma. I certainly do!

Have you considered hosting the Carnival one week?

Blessings to you and yours this Thanksgiving weekend.

]]> By: Jaimie http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-31 Jaimie Wed, 21 Nov 2007 02:14:07 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-31 I would love to volunteer to help supervise, if they allowed that, but I have Alexa with me so I have to supervise her and she can't go out onto the floor. The actual gymnastics stuff they do is pretty cool. the amount of time they do it - not as cool. I would love to volunteer to help supervise, if they allowed that, but I have Alexa with me so I have to supervise her and she can’t go out onto the floor.

The actual gymnastics stuff they do is pretty cool. the amount of time they do it - not as cool.

]]> By: Emily http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-30 Emily Wed, 21 Nov 2007 00:47:49 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-30 LOL Bossy Pink! Many hugs! LOL Bossy Pink!

Many hugs!

]]> By: FourPillars http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-28 FourPillars Tue, 20 Nov 2007 20:13:28 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-28 Hi J - nice site! I don't know if this suggestion will help the situation or just make things worse but would it be possible for you to volunteer to help supervise? I imagine there are some days where all the kids are engaged so you might not be needed but for things like the parallel bars (aren't they a bit young for that?) it would be a huge help to the instructor to have someone else there to look after the majority of kids that aren't doing anything. Mike Hi J - nice site!

I don’t know if this suggestion will help the situation or just make things worse but would it be possible for you to volunteer to help supervise? I imagine there are some days where all the kids are engaged so you might not be needed but for things like the parallel bars (aren’t they a bit young for that?) it would be a huge help to the instructor to have someone else there to look after the majority of kids that aren’t doing anything.

Mike

]]> By: Jaimie http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-27 Jaimie Mon, 19 Nov 2007 17:26:33 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-27 It is really hard. I keep wavering in my head about what I should have done. Ugh. Argh I detest that gymnastics class and will be very happy when it is over in December. Of course, CJ will *not* be happy at all about that. I tried CJ in taekwondo but he wasn't ready for it yet. hopefully after Christmas we'll try again. Mostly for CJ he needs to develop the verbal skills to fight back though. That will just have to come with time. It is really hard. I keep wavering in my head about what I should have done. Ugh.

Argh I detest that gymnastics class and will be very happy when it is over in December. Of course, CJ will *not* be happy at all about that.

I tried CJ in taekwondo but he wasn’t ready for it yet. hopefully after Christmas we’ll try again. Mostly for CJ he needs to develop the verbal skills to fight back though. That will just have to come with time.

]]> By: Jilse http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-25 Jilse Mon, 19 Nov 2007 15:55:40 +0000 http://www.hugtwice.com/2007/11/19/its-hard-to-watch-your-child-be-bullied/#comment-25 We have the same problems with our little girl. She is very small for her age, and she is also very timid. There is a child in our playgroup that feels it's her mission in life to boss Miss R around and/or hurt her. We have tried working with Miss R so that she can stand up for herself and tell this child to leave her alone or to stop hurting her. So far Miss R has started to voice her compliants, but when push comes to shove, the bully gets whatever it is she is after. The other day we were at the local McDonalds. The girl's were on the playstructure together. They were playing fairly nicely for a while. Then Miss R wanted to go back up to the slide, but the bully wanted her to stay down with her. Miss R told the bully that she wanted to go up, the bully said No! and grabbed Miss R's arm. By now us mom's had noticed the conflict. Bully's mom starts asking bully to let go of R's arm, as am I, only I am a little firmer about it. Meanwhile Miss R is telling bully No, and to let her go. Finally bully pulls Miss R off the playstructure and onto the floor. Bully got a short talking to by her mom, while Miss R cried in my arms for a about five minutes. After we got home and I took off R's pants I see that she had gotta a boo-boo on her knee from the incident. As a mom I am not happy. I feel like bully's mom should have stepped in sooner, and been firmer with her child. She should have taken her home after the incident if you ask me, that's what I would have done had it been my child bullying. I am frustrated with my child always getting hurt around this bully child because her parents cannot control her. I want my child to fight back and put bully in her place, so maybe then the bully would leave her alone. But as you said sometimes you have to let them fight their own fights. Maybe one day CJ and Miss R will be strong enough to not be bullied. We joined Miss R in a Gymkata class where she will learn kicks, punches, and blocks. I am hoping that one day bully will go too far, and her Gymkata training may even the score. Not what a mother is supposed to say, but it's the truth. We have the same problems with our little girl. She is very small for her age, and she is also very timid. There is a child in our playgroup that feels it’s her mission in life to boss Miss R around and/or hurt her. We have tried working with Miss R so that she can stand up for herself and tell this child to leave her alone or to stop hurting her. So far Miss R has started to voice her compliants, but when push comes to shove, the bully gets whatever it is she is after.

The other day we were at the local McDonalds. The girl’s were on the playstructure together. They were playing fairly nicely for a while. Then Miss R wanted to go back up to the slide, but the bully wanted her to stay down with her. Miss R told the bully that she wanted to go up, the bully said No! and grabbed Miss R’s arm.

By now us mom’s had noticed the conflict. Bully’s mom starts asking bully to let go of R’s arm, as am I, only I am a little firmer about it. Meanwhile Miss R is telling bully No, and to let her go. Finally bully pulls Miss R off the playstructure and onto the floor. Bully got a short talking to by her mom, while Miss R cried in my arms for a about five minutes. After we got home and I took off R’s pants I see that she had gotta a boo-boo on her knee from the incident.

As a mom I am not happy. I feel like bully’s mom should have stepped in sooner, and been firmer with her child. She should have taken her home after the incident if you ask me, that’s what I would have done had it been my child bullying. I am frustrated with my child always getting hurt around this bully child because her parents cannot control her. I want my child to fight back and put bully in her place, so maybe then the bully would leave her alone.

But as you said sometimes you have to let them fight their own fights. Maybe one day CJ and Miss R will be strong enough to not be bullied. We joined Miss R in a Gymkata class where she will learn kicks, punches, and blocks. I am hoping that one day bully will go too far, and her Gymkata training may even the score. Not what a mother is supposed to say, but it’s the truth.

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